Embrace it

Welcome to the December 2013 Carnival of Natural Parenting: The More Things Change . . .

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month our participants have shared stories and wisdom about life changes.

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We started this year with so many plans and hopes. And all in all, 2013 has been a good year for our family.  But it’s not ending without tears.  I had put on my goals list for the year to be pregnant and I’m resigned to the fact that it will never be on my list again.

The change this year has come in the form of acceptance.  It’s hard to accept that my dreams of having lots of babies and awesome homebirths are never going to be realized. It’s hard to accept that Sylvi is my last little one.  Accepting Liam’s changes and his growth have been difficult but because there was always the knowledge that there was a baby coming along behind him, it softened the blow for me.  Now, I’m even more aware of the little moments in their lives and the need to cherish them.

Looking through the holiday photos from last year… I’m amazed at how much they’ve changed.  Last Thanksgiving Liam wore a fedora and vest, neither of which have fit his growing body for months.  Sylvi had hair that was long enough to be a sweet little bob.  She’s since had her first professional haircut and has a sweet little ponytail.

At Christmas, she was still squinting up her face any saying “Cheeeeeessse”.  This no longer happens.

Liam had mastered the 60 piece puzzle.  He made it to 100 piece puzzles and lost interest in that activity.  He just wants to write his name. On everything.

Liam memorized his address, full name and birthday.  He’s also learned the addresses or locations of his friends’ homes.  He builds with Legos all the time.  And learned how to work the dvd player.

Sylvi is sleeping through the night on a regular basis.  She also decided one that she no longer wanted to wear diapers.  And although it took longer that I expected (based on how Liam did) she’s also 100% potty trained with no accidents for weeks.  She can almost spell her name, but is convinced her middle name is “Robert” and not “Karin”.

Liam is doing wonderfully in school and I’m constantly amazed by how much he can absorb.  We don’t know if we’ll do Kindergarten next year, but I am just thrilled at how much he wants to learn so I’m soaking it up!

About the only thing that hasn’t changed in our home is Matt’s employment.  Still steady.  Still the same office.  Still the same clients.  And that’s comforting.  I’ve been writing some copy for them as well, so this year when we attend the Christmas party, I will feel a little more like a part of the team 🙂

So with all the change in our home, the only thing I can say that has worked has simply been to “roll with it”.  I cannot change our circumstance, but I can choose to embrace each of these moments.

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Please take time to read the submissions by the other carnival participants:

(This list will be updated by afternoon December 10 with all the carnival links.)

  • Mature StudentAmber Strocel is embarking on a new adventure in 2014, by returning to a space in her life she thought she’d left behind – that of being a university student.
  • And then there were four — Jillian at Mommyhood learned how quickly love can grow when welcoming a second child to the family.
  • Handling Change As A Mother (And Why That Takes Things To A Different Level) — Jennifer at Hybrid Rasta Mama shares how she helps her young daughter navigate change and why it is so important, as a mother, to gauge her own reactions to change.
  • Without Dad-One Year Later — Erica at ChildOrganics shares how her life has changed one year after losing her husband suddenly.
  • Family Ties — Lori at TEACH through Love realized that her most significant, most painful wound paved the way for her to share her greatest gift.
  • Rootless — After Dionna @ Code Name: Mama‘s parents packed up their home and moved to Florida this fall, she is feeling rootless and restless.
  • A Letter to My Mama Self in the Swirl of Change — Sheila Pai of A Living Family shares a letter she wrote to herself to capture and remember the incredible changes from the year, and invites you to do the same and share!
  • Junctionssustainablemum explains how her family has dealt with a complete change of direction this year.
  • Planning, Parenting, and Perfection — Becca at The Earthling’s Handbook explains how most of the plans she made for her adult life have worked out differently than she planned, but she’s ended up getting a lot of what she really wanted.
  • Why First Grade Means Growing Up… for Both Me and My Daughter — Donna at Eco-Mothering discovers that her daughter’s transition into first grade is harder as a parent.
  • First Year of Mothering — Mercedes at Project Procrastinot reflects on the quiet change that took her by surprise this year.
  • Building the Community YOu Desire — A recent move has Mandy at Living Peacefully with Children working toward setting up a new support network.
  • Slowing down in 2013 — A car fire and a surprise diagnosis of Down syndrome made 2013 a very different year than the one Crunchy Con Mommy and family were expecting!
  • The Seven Year Cycle — After 7 intense years of baking, birthing and breastfeeding 6 kids, Zoie at TouchstoneZ wonders, “Will I be enough for what comes next?”
  • Rebirth — Kellie of Our Mindful Life has found that each of her births leaves her a different person.
  • When a Hobby Becomes a Business — This year, new doors opened for That Mama Gretchen‘s hobby of writing and blogging – it has turned into a side business. She’s sharing a bit about her journey and some helpful tips in case you’re interested in following the same path.
  • 5 Tips for Embracing a Big Change in Your Family — Deb Chitwood at Living Montessori Now tells about a big change in her family and shares tips that have always helped her family embrace changes.
  • Ch-Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes — Ana at Panda & Ananaso ruminates on how having a child changed her priorities.
  • Homeostasis — Lauren at Hobo Mama is finding that even as elements shift in her life — in cosleeping, homeschooling, breastfeeding, & more — they mostly remain very familiar.
  • Sally go round the sun — A new baby brings joy and unexpected sadness for Douglas at Friendly Encounters, as she is diagnosed with a rare genetic condition.
  • Embrace it — Laura from Pug in the Kitchen muses about the changes in her family this year and how she can embrace them . . . as best she can anyway.
  • Big Change; Seamless but Big — Jorje of Momma Jorje shares how one of the biggest changes of her life was also a seamless transition.

7 Replies to “Embrace it”

  1. Ah, mama. I’m sorry that you’re feeling down about not having any more babies. I remember how desperately we wanted to get pregnant before Ailia, and wondering if it would never happen. I hope that whatever happens, you find some peace with it. Much love to you!

  2. That is a big change to come to terms with. I’m glad it’s inspired you to slow down and enjoy all the little changes in your kids. I know I can let those moments pass without acknowledging them, and it’s amazing how quickly they can go by. Love all your pictures of your cute family!

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